Readers, myself included, love dialogue that seems genuine. We want it to ring true, to reflect character, to be appropriate for place, time and conversational partners.
In other words, we want it to feel legit.
Which brings me to slang.
Evidently, it’s not cool to say legit any more. (It’s probably not cool to say cool, either, but I’ll leave that there.) The new legit is lit, cracked or vibe. In fact, vibe is so vibin’ that my teenage son has entire conversations using it as a noun, verb and pronoun, as in “I’m vibin’ on this vibe, viber.”
Lit has similar range. Add a “y” and it becomes a super-adjective. I would imagine adding an “ly” would make it an adverb, but it seems that young people (bros? bruhs?) aren’t big on modifying verbs. (And, yes, I’m aware that saying things like “young people” means I’m not one of them.)
I would say this makes me cheesy or, to use an 80s term, Joanie, but I guess those words went out with fingerless lace gloves and antenna bangs. Cringe is the new cheese, but even that has layers, and you have to know when to use cringe versus cringe-y, just as you have to understand the subtleties of cray versus cray-cray.
Then there’s the issue of punctuation.
The period, which has always seemed fairly innocuous to me, is now a sign of derision or aggression. Answering “Okay.” to a text is the equivalent of tossing a drink in someone’s face.
Even an exclamation point may not be enough to indicate good will. (And you know I have a deep and abiding love for that mark). Digital communications now have to include emojis.
Unfortunately, even this is rife with danger. My teenage daughter informed me that using a grinning emoji may mean that you’re very sad or upset. I would respond with a face-palm emoji, but that probably indicates that I’m riding a bicycle or enjoy ham sandwiches for lunch.
All of this makes writing younger characters in 2021 fraught with the possibility of error. The eponymous protagonist of my Maggie O’Malley Mysteries is young-ish. As a twentysomething, it’s more than a little possible that she, or her bestie Constantine, would pepper dialogue with slang.
However, it’s hard for me to imagine Maggie describing a new medication as baller, suggesting that someone is capping to the police or believing that someone is sus based on a lack of alibi. So I have to thread the needle between Maggie’s youth, the heart of who she really is, and the fact that people will be reading well after the year I wrote.
It’s no mean feat, but I’ve seen others do it with aplomb because they’ve got game. Or maybe they are game? In either case, I’m inspired to keep learning, keep writing and keep my ear to the ground for not just what’s new in language, but what’s true for my characters.
Pretty sick, right?
How about you, dear friends? Do you like slang, either to read or write? Are you hip to all the cool terms or are you a square like me?
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I barely know any of the new slang terms. I also avoid using emojis because who knows what they’re supposed to mean? One of the hazards of not having kids. And periods being a sign of aggression is news to me. Apologies to all of my nieces if my texts ever offended them by ending a sentence correctly!
Ha ha on the periods! I’m right there with you, Marla!
I didn’t know that about periods either, Marla!! Oops.
Yeah… I’d guess that I’m a little on the Square Pegs side of things. However, I have heard, Nana you’re pretty fly, so I could probably adjust and get myself lit on the down low, etc lol
Fly! Nice!! The highest of praise, I think!
I have to do a face palm when I finally understand what these new slang term means! So I guess I am a dinosaur stuck in slang of my past.
I’m with you, Grace. I find myself doubling-down on Slang of Years Gone By and try to incorporate one “groovy” a day!
Right there with you.
I admit that I have no clue about the new slang and if it were used around me, I would have the blankest look on my face. I still proudly use “cool” in my conversations, but I have put “groovy” in the closet of my mind. (wink emoji)
Carol
I’m pro-cool and pro-groovy!
Ha closet of your mind! We see what you did there.
I am not hip. My 18-year-old tells me so quite frequently. LOL
The teens like to keep us humble!
This was such fun to read—and yes, a challenge for sure!
I used tl;dr in a draft of a story recently, and my writing group was puzzled, to say the least—and then the question of when certain words, terms, phrases might go back out of circulation, dating a work….
Whew!
It’s a challenge to try to be accurate to the language of various groups (not just age, but occupation, cultural background, etc.) without others being mystified at times. A balance for sure.
tl;dr, Art? Please elucidate this dinosaur. Or maybe, make me lit? OK, I’ll not try that.
Ah!
too long; didn’t read
…in response to articles, essays, FB posts, whatever where someone explains in too much detail (and what you really need is the key info).
dr–how would we say DID read? dr? ntl;dr?
I’m glad you asked, Kaye, because I didn’t know, either!
And too long now means more than a Twitter post? Oy. I mean, Oy!!
I guess, at my age, I have to be sure NOT to ever type dnr. I’m not ready for that yet.
Ha ha, Kaye!!
Yes, Leslie, and even the texts I’m getting are becoming shorter and shorter!
I think it’s what my son tells me when I write too long a text. But he’s the king of the 1-3 word (imagine them mumbled) text response. Spelling & grammar don’t matter. He also doesn’t cap the capped letters in those captchas. Not necessary. (Srsly?) Blame everything on ac.
The dearth of vowels seems to be catching! Witness tumblr, flickr, scribd.
Such a balance! Slang that dates a work can be both a blessing and a curse, depending!
I’m square to be square. I don’ t mind local slang in books though.
I’m with you in Squaresville, Dru!
Squaresville Cozies! I’d read those.
Let’s write them!
I don’t make any attempt to keep up anymore. I just hope my retro words become cool again someday.
They’ll come back right, Kaye? I also keep hoping for a return of those antenna bangs. (I have my AquaNet at the ready.)
Even though I have a teen granddaughter I don’t keep up with slang (and if she uses a term I don’t understand I google it instead of letting her know I’m “square”. I also use emojis however and whenever I like (whether they’re “cool” or not) and figure she’s smart enough to figure out what I’m trying to say, lol!
I think I need a teen interpreter! Google is definitely my friend for unearthing those terms.
I feel for you, Kathy! My younger kiddo recently informed me that when texting him, no punctuation in any form is to be used. Not even capital letters.
At times, I think the best way to communication with the young ones is through Schitt’s Creek gifs. Now, where’s my old man cane?
Thank goodness for gifs!
Agreed! Gifs are where it’s at, baybee!
J.C., I have some younger relatives who text without capitalization and punctuation marks. My writer mind cringes!
I know! It’s like, “Are there no rules anymore? Are we in the Mad Max era of grammar now?”
https://giphy.com/gifs/3og0IJgyj4hijAEyk0/html5
Hilarious gif!!
Ha!
Wait, so emojis don’t mean what they appear to mean? Someone shoot me know. (Which is actually a terms of excitement since I can dictate things mean whatever I want them to me.)
Ha ha!! That’s perfect, Mark!
Kathy, you never fail to make me LLOL—legit laugh out loud. And I must say, I am the heppest of cats in my own mind. I’ve also accepted the very real possibility my kids tell me things like this that aren’t remotely true. Now, where is that eggplant emoji so I can tell you how spectacular your spelling skillz are …..
Becky, step away from the eggplant. I repeat…
Ha ha! Speaking of things fraught with danger, I’ve decided to steer clear of any produce-related emojis. I went to an emoji encyclopedia (yes, such a thing exists) and was shocked, shocked I say, see all the possible things I may accidentally convey!
Hilarious. Can you imagine what it’s going to be like 200 years from now when lexicographers (or whoever) try to piece together how we did the talky-talk? It’ll be as weird as when we see Chaucer’s Ss look like Fs.
“how we did the talky-talk” 😂😂😂
So true!!
I read an article about heart emojis and colors and all the different things they convey. (And I’m still confused.)
I would like to read that article because I have no idea!
I should read that! I’m a user (and perhaps abuser) of heart emojis.
I think I read this article: https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/g35382506/heart-emojis-meaning/
P.S. Please don’t misconstrue any hearts I send out!
I am definitely a square. Even my brother texts me acronyms, and I need to look them up!
On the other hand, I’m glad I have a few resources around. I have a critique partner who keeps introducing slang into her work, so that helps me know new terms. My editor is also pretty good at telling me about up-and-coming vocabulary–and letting me know when I’m writing “too old!”
It’s good to have those voices in our lives, writing and otherwise! I often wonder why I chose a main character who is decades (and a generation!) younger than me. I know I write old!
I just click on to Twitter. Holy moly.
This was a delightful post! My kids are always using slang that makes me go “what now?” and then they patiently explain it. It’s fascinating to see the words come and go. (Is it? I think it is. #wordnerd)
I was able to stop saying “mint,” eventually, which is what we said in high school for something fabulous. But I will never be able to stop saying “cool.”
Mint! I’ve never heard that! I wonder if it’s a regional thing. Which could be an entirely separate post! #fellowwordnerd
That’s a new one to me, too!
OMG, I SO love this post! I have no kids (and, thus, no grand kids) to ask questions of, so I’m always at a loss as to what acronyms and newly coined slang mean. Luckily, I tend to favor food emojis, which I’m hoping are mostly safe. Or are they…?
Just stay away from eggplants.
What Kaye said. Stay away from eggplants. And peaches. All produce, really. And slang changes so quickly, I feel like I can never keep up!
Noooooooo!!! You can’t take my food emojis from me! Good thing I tend not to hang out with a lot of young folks who might be offended by eggplants. Or peaches.
Then I say use them with abandon! Besides, it’s impossible to keep up with the ever-changing meanings.
Kathy, you have no idea how perfect the timing on this is! I’ve been debating incorporating some current slang into my new book, but would I have to explain “salty,” “thirsty,” and “spilling tea” to readers who aren’t tweens, teens, or Gen Z, like my kid? The last thing I want to do is sound like an old fart trying to sound hip! Loved the post.
I agonize over that, too! Where’s the line between relatable and cringe? Wait…I think I just crossed it.
I taught myself GenX slang to do Nattie’s unique voice in the Natalie McMasters Mysteries. My teen doesn’t use it at all, so thank God for the Internet. I’ve had a mixed reaction from readers. Some can’t even take all the OMGs, WTFs and WOATs (I’ll bet they’re parents with teens!) and others get up in my DMs to tell me the think Nattie’s voice is totally iconic and to thank me for teaching them a new language. And I don’t explain anything. I’m old school — if you don’t understand it, look it up!
“Look it up!” I love that. Now we have Google instead of the Encyclopedia Britannica! And interesting about the reader responses. So cool (I mean vibe) that many like learning new slang.
GenX slang is not all that I use. Nattie’s wife Lupe is Mexican, so her English is very exact but sprinkled with Spanish here and there. Nattie’s husband Danny was in the Corps, so that gives me the chance to throw in some Marinespeak.
Awesome post, Kathy! Cool. Hilarious. Super cute. (That’s it. That’s all the polite slang I got, ha–because in a NY minute the others will all disappear.) Although here in upper New England, “wicked” has also never gone out of style, along with that horrible Moxie drink.
Ooooooooo! Yes, wicked!! Such a classic. Glad to hear it’s still in use!
You can label me a SUPER square! I stay in the 70’s if I am using slang because that was the last time I used slang of any importance. I have used some slang of newer years but they change faster than scrolling down the pictures on a cell. I am almost 60 and I don’t want to sound anything but a 60 year old or else I would get confused and then…what was I saying? 😴😴
I hear you! And I’m with you!! Plus 70s slang is so fun. In fact with the return of (almost) bell bottoms, I bet those terms will come back into use!
Kathy, you are totally hip! And I should know, since I’m recently updated and upgraded on the “ hip” front!
So are eggplant emojis obscene? Asking for a friend.
You are the hippest, Vickie, and have the upgrade to boot!!
Ah, the eggplant. Erm, yes, is usually the answer. And context is everything.