Here’s a snippet of a conversation between me and my best friend at a Jazzercise class some time ago:
Me: Did you read about the body found floating in the Pacific?
Bestie: Murdered by the scientist, right?
Me (tying my shoes): Then decapitated.
Bestie (lunging into a calf stretch): I think they only found the torso.
Me: Oh, I hadn’t heard that.
It was at this point in the conversation that I realized that our fellow Jazzercisers were listening to us, their mouths tiny circles of shock. It was also at this point that I realized that murder may not be everyone’s favorite topic.
There are inherent dangers to being a mystery author. Writer’s cramp. The occasional ego-shattering blow. A diet comprised largely of pizza-flavored Pringles and red wine. (Just speaking for myself here.) I think one of the greatest risks for me is embarrassing myself and horrifying others with comments and observations borne from days spent planning characters’ deaths.
In order to appear normal-ish—and receive invitations to social events—I’ve made a list of helpful tips. Here they are, in no particular order.
Tip 1: When making dinner for guests, don’t comment on how easy it is to poison someone.
Tip 2: Refrain from telling friends that their next vacation spot has an unusually high concentration of serial killers.
Tip 3: Don’t mention how someone’s scratches look like defensive wounds.
Tip 4: Avoid bringing up decomposition timeframes.
Tip 5: Think twice about telling people about the best way to dispose of a body.
Tip 6: Remember that most people don’t want to know their state’s homicide investigation procedures.
Tip 7: Don’t offer recommendations for how to get out bloodstains.
Tip 8: Quell the urge to share your most creative murder techniques.
Tip 9: Don’t mutter “Amateur” when you hear about a murderer being caught.
Tip 10: If it seems like a good idea to demonstrate the best chokehold, remember: it isn’t.
So that’s me. How ‘bout you? Does being a mystery reader and/or author make it difficult to not share your…um…research?
I love your list. I don’t tend to talk about murder all that much in real life, but I sure do at mystery conventions. I often wonder how people not part of the convention look at us.
I do like to remind my friends I read murder mysteries, so I know how to get away with murder. (Of course, then I usually tell them that the killers are always caught in my books, but I do like to give them a couple of seconds to think about it.
I always love it when I’m in the elevator at a conference and someone asks what convention I’m with, and then getting to see them take a step back when I provide the answer.
Ha ha! YES. At my first Malice Domestic, I leaned over and said, “And then there were two” after the elevator cleared out to leave me and another rider. I then realized that person was not part of the convention.
Love it, Mark! I think sharing our potential ability to get away with murder shows that we’re close readers.
Giggling at all of these stories…
Great list! Like Mark, I tend not to talk about murder much in real life either. Maybe I’m hanging out at the wrong places. Time to join Jazzercise!
What a fabulous list, Kathleen! Number 9 made me laugh out loud. 😂
So, yesterday someone I know was researching how long it takes a body to decompose. Is this a safe space to mention that? Asking for a friend…
ALWAYS. I’m sure our internet search histories are equally alarming!
And then I learned about The Body Farm…moohahahaha. Except it’s real.
Lisa … at our body farm here in CO is where they discovered that cats like to eat dead bodies. Next time we’re together, let’s discuss this in overly-loud tones in public.
I’ve learned that I need to censor myself–and silence my phone. My favorite true crime podcast started playing while I was checking out at the grocery store. Whoopsie. (And Jazzercise is the BEST.)
This made me smile! Thanks!
Thanks for reading, Katy!
Ha! One of my favorite memories is being in Panera with my critique group (remember meeting in person?) discussing plot problems about a book, which of course included murder, and having someone come up to ask, “Uh, what are you talking about?” LOL
HA! That’s great. I also wonder how many people have eavesdropped on our murderous (fictional) plotting.
Good tips! I know all of my authors have also mentioned some anxiety about what would happen if the FCC ever got hold of their browser’s search history.
TRUTH. My search history for As Directed was the worst. (I can’t specify because…spoilers.) I kept waiting for a knock on my door….
In my house, it’s more often wine stains we talk about how to clean–but luckily the technique is similar to that for blood, so I already have that in my repertoire.
Can’t beat a multitasking technique!
I worry a lot about some government LEOs getting hold of my Google searches. They’d have trouble deciding whether I was a revolutionary, a terrorist, a serial killer or all three rolled into one.
Ha ha! I know the feeling!!
I think there’s no hope for me—not that I ever had much of a social life—because I don’t take this as a cautionary list. I’ve ADDED these tips to my sparkling party conversation. I’ll be the hit of the party! One of the cool kids like you, Kathy!
Perfect cocktail party conversation! I’ll be awaiting my invitation (post-COVID, natch).
You’re first on the list!
Love this, Kathy! And thank you for introducing me to true crime podcasts earlier, by the way. My Favorite Murder and then the slippery slope…
I love my podcasts! And MFM was the one that started playing while I was at the store…
Fab list, Kathy! Number 4: When I was hanging out at coffeehouses researching My Fair Latte, I learned one of the baristas was a pre-med major — and she’d been to the body farm here in the U.P.! I may have creeped her out with my enthusiasm on the subject, lol!
I would have been the same way! They’re like celebs to us.
What a great list, Kathy! I do remember getting into a conversation with my family once and then realizing they really didn’t need to know all those details I’d gleaned from a mystery convention.
That murderous overshare line is hard to spot. I usually see it after I cross!
Yes! So many times. My critique partner and I were at lunch brainstorming a plot idea last year and at one point, everyone at the table next to us whipped their heads around when she lamented, of her cozy village, “There’s no one left in this town to kill!”
Fantastic list, Kathy! You’re so funny.
Cynthia, lol!
(snort!) I always wonder what people think when they overhear something like that!
OMG, this list is hilarious, awesome, and dead-on! Oops. Used the word “dead.” That’s a tip. Limit your use of the word “dead” when in company.
Good advice!!
When entering Canada for the Left Coast Crime conference, the customs’ agent asked about the purpose of my trip and then asked what conference I was attending. After answering “Left Coast Crime” he proceeded to ask me a lot more detailed questions until he was satisfied that I wasn’t part of a mob or crime syndicate!
Ha ha! What a great story!!!
These are wonderful! So many times out at dinner at Malice Dmestic with author oaks like the Wickeds and Sheila Connolly, we’ve seen the wait staff and other customers start backing away with horrified looks on their faces.
Love that, Edith! I’m sure you gave them plenty to talk about!
The upside of all this is we are members of a community of uniquely creative individuals who have great senses of humor!
Beautifully said. I so agree! <3
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